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Why Did Michael Jackson Whisper?

Do you know why Michel whispered when he spoke? I’ll tell you why – let me decode this amazing revelation for you.

The reason Michael whispered is that he was being polite. He was also being humble. That’s because he knew that within him was AFRICAN RAGE. That mixed with an instinct for RAW power, on the level of lightening, which MJ resolved with Creation to demonstrate for us.
Now go ahead. I dare you. Use your imagination or get one of his DVD’s and watch him again. It’s called a FORCE of NATURE. It’s called an animal intensity not common within man. It’s called, “I don’t want to scare you and I am being polite because you are doing small human and I will play the whisper game in order NOT to SCARE you.”

He KNEW he had raw ANIMAL power. Raw instinct. So what MJ was doing was being humble and also 100% AWARE of who he was. In fact he was SO aware of who he was and with what he could be and do, that when he was with “mere mortals,” he took himself down about eighty decibels.

On purpose. Michael Jackson was Spellbound. By his OWN power!

What an incredible interpretation – this was shared with me by an author by the name of Joe Schroeder who, like me, focuses on helping people unleash their potential. You, like MJ, are full of power – even if your power is yet dormant. I want to help you tap into it and release it – full force – think water rushing out of a fire hydrant.

Lots of times we are hesitant, fearful, and mis-stepping because of lack – lack of money, time, connections, opportunity. Learn to stop the madness of expecting DIFFERENT results even as you continue doing the same things. You want different results? Then activate the courage to take DIFFERENT actions.

Check out my website which will certainly get the ball rolling:

You too can learn to whisper with confidence:

www.PrivateSuccessClub.com

Call me with questions, clarifications, or direction – I can help you turn things around. I am a Lifestyle Coach & that is what I do.

To Infinity & Beyond,

Coach Kim  ~ 410.205.6003

My Lists – What’s on Yours?

While out in traffic today, I got stuck behind a particular vehicle which brought to mind the highs and lows in this journey called life. I tell my children not to use the word “hate” because that encompasses so much venom and negative energy. So along that line, I will not say hate, but these are my two category listings…

THINGS I AM REALLY DISPLEASED WITH/BY/ABOUT

1. Driving behind a Baltimore City Garbage truck

2. Cleaning chicken

3. Seeing Fruit of the Loom undergarments all over the city just because it’s summer time

4. Broken promises, especially to a child

5. Racism

6. People falling way below their potential

7. Victimization mentality

THINGS THAT MAKE MY SPIRIT SING

1. Seeing a new mother love her baby with her eyes

2. Getting more checks than bills in the mail

3. Beating my own high score

4. Books that have me shaking my head by the time I get to the last page

5. Enjoying old Motown tunes

6. Watching my President interact with his family

7. When an old pair of jeans are too big

So what does all of this mean? Think about your lists and then do more of what you like and avoid what you don’t like – you are not a victim and you do not have to live a life solely in the reaction mode. Create new situations; change things; breathe new life into your environment. In other words….

Take Charge, so when it is all said and done, you can say, like Old Blue Eyes, that you did it your way.

Have an awesome day – and send me some things on your lists – I’d love to see what tickles your fancy!

Warm Regards,

Coach Kim

What Department, Please?

I am straight up jamming this morning – grooving to new ideas on mining and refining my skills, learning how to be better and do better – all via the modern convenience of my ipod and one of my favorite mentors. So I come to the end of a specific coaching CD and instead of part two, up to the plate jumps an old school gospel tune.

Oooookay – I guess I am going to just go with it – I mean, how can you really excel unless your spirit is also motivated and encouraged to strive for greater heights. As I am grooving in my own versatility, the gospel music ends and into the mix jumps Earth, Wind, and Fire.

Okay – for real – I am starting to grind the gears as I shift from genre to genre, steadily trying to compartmentalize and feed the right area, the right food.

And then it hit me – sometimes it’s okay (and cool and refreshing and insightful) to just go with the flow. Because we are THAT awesome – we can indeed shift, almost effortlessly. It is when we try to force ourselves into our own self designed boxes, that the cramps can set in. We are uniquely designed and all 3 of our departments must be fed – mind, body, and spirit – lack in any area will be noticeable and will surely cripple your progress.

I challenge you to feed all three…  daily.

And here’s the best news – you don’t even need permission to do this. You are always at the controls. Regardless of what they tell you – the power to change and excel is always internal. You may ask yourself – where do I start? Great question – here’s the answer.

Just like triplets, the one that is hungry will indeed cry out – you just have to recognize and respond to the language being spoken. And be authentic – sometimes your body cries out for a banana and you give it a piece of chocolate. These internal anchors intrinsically know what is best for them – try not to disappoint them, as you are the one doing the feeding.

Feed all three – stretch them, challenge them, nourish them  - and then groom them and grow them in the same direction. And you will find yourself closer to your goals and satisfied with your journey.

The sum of the collective power of these areas, these departments, makes us fabulously unstoppable.

Remember -

You only go around once…

But if it’s one GOOD TIME, that’s enough!

Coach Kim

Tags: motivation, Self help

The Fear Factor

I was listening to a soulful rap song yesterday and one line jumped out at me:

I’m the only thing I’m afraid of…

I had to listen to that line a couple of times! How full of potential that line is – suppose this entire journey actually comes down to how much permission you give yourself to succeed? If that is the case, I am inviting you right now, right this moment, to remove the shackles. I do believe that the same thing can happen to many different people and the outcomes will be as varied as their individual personalities. It’s all about the process – how the information is digested within the bounds of the particular person’s makeup. One author put it this way – genetics loads the weapon, but environment pulls the trigger.

And here is the best news of all – if you don’t like your environment – then move! You are not a tree! You don’t have to stand there and take it – you can control your surroundings and determine what you allow to enter into and dwell in your space. You probably have more control of your circumstances than you care to admit. It’s easier to complain, than it is to change. That bears repeating…

It’s easier to complain than it is to change.

I challenge you to not let your fear overshadow you, but rather direct it to undergird you and propel you to the next level. Enjoy the journey, but keep your eyes on the next level, otherwise you will become complacent and stagnant.

Inviting you to Make Excellence your Standard,

Coach Kim

No Jesus? Are You Serious?

I have a challenge for you – try to be something that you are not. And I mean WAY out of character.

For example, if you are not a fan of speaking in front of people, organize a venue where you can address a few hundred people in a large auditorium.

Or how about this – if you have a corny sense of humor, sign up for amateur night at a local stand up comedy joint.

I hope you would agree with me that both of those options would be foolish ventures, if you are not drawn in any way, shape, or form, to these outlets.

Your Best You is about being who YOU are – not allowing others to reshape or remake you into someone that you are not. Here’s a newsflash:

You are Already Enough and you have ALL the raw materials you need, to excel.

Stick with me (and others in your corner) who are willing to cheer you on to the FINISH line that you have defined. And in some cases, some of us need to be encouraged to move smartly to the START line! But that too is OK. Just be Who YOU are throughout your journey. That is how one walks in integrity. Shakespeare said it best…

“To thine own self be true”

Now, getting back to Jesus. Where is He??? I have looked high and I have looked low and CANNOT seem to find Him anywhere as relates to the Christmas holiday. I see Santa and Rudolph and angels and bells and candy canes – ad nauseum – but I don’t see Jesus.

When the world takes something (that includes you) and redefines it… Watch out! We may forget what the original was supposed to look like. Just like we have allowed them to do it to our most sacred holiday, surely you cannot think that you would be off limits…

My word to the wise:

Guard your stuff…

Walk in integrity

No Jesus at Christmas time???

You’ve got to be kidding me!

Merry Jesus Christ-mas to you and Yours,

Coach Kim

Tags: Christmas, holiday, integrity, Jesus

When your Child Goes away to College

I have a good friend who told me when his first daughter moved away to college last year, he had a strong inclination to pack up his house and relocate the entire family to her college town. I understand the pull. There is always a duplicitous role we play as parents. We strive to make our children independent and courageous and confident enough to thrive in this high pressure, chew you up and spit you out world – on the one hand. Yet an undercurrent stays with us as long as we are parents. We want to rush in, to rescue, to restore and resolve. It all stems from running into their room from the age of toddler hood, to show them that there really were no monsters hiding under the bed.

And now, 18 years later, this woman child or man child that you have been running alongside for almost 2 decades, not quite sure if the training wheels would hold – this person is ready to leave the nest and stake the claim. Parents – how will you deal with it?

Let me preface my list by first stating the obvious. You must go through this – there is no cut card, no way out. The dignity of it all is that you get to select your attitude during the journey. That is the major saving grace. So, here is the list:

1.  Mental and Emotional Preparation. This new stage of life is one that can be designed by you, to some extent. Before the first suitcase is packed, you can decide to focus. Focus on two things:  the memories that were formed during the childhood years and the great opportunities that await your child just on the other side of the door. In focusing on the positives and the possibilities, you are agreeing with life that this is a GOOD thing and you are choosing to agree with your child to make the best of it.

2.  Spiritual Preparation.  This is your opportunity to thank God for the safety of the journey thusfar and to cast all of your cares upon Him. If you don’t, you can be easily distraught with worries and fears that you have absolutely no control over. Remember, regardless of where your child is attending school, there is no corner of this world where a prayer cannot reach.

3. Establishing Methods of Communication.  Weaning is something that is done in stages – it is not a sudden death scenario. That being said, it will be important, particularly in the first semester, to choose a set pattern of connecting with your child. You may opt to talk on the phone a couple times per week, and send unlimited emails and texts, and even write a letter or two. As much as this 18 year old may demand their independence, their is still a big chunk of them that is so intricately woven into your family fabric, that they will not be able to immediately and completely extricate themselves. And that’s a good thing.

4.  New Patterns.  Point out the fun and unique opportunities still available for the children who are still at home. Remember to not let the excitement and the glamour of the transition of the departing student, completely overshadow those left behind. Otherwise you may have a big bucket of tears and lingering sentiments to deal with once you leave the new college campus. Just remember, this change effects the entire family unit, in one way or another – be in tuned to everyone’s manner of dealing with it.

5. Logistics. Bed, Bath, & Beyond, JC Penny, Apple Store – purchasing these items is actually the simplest part of the equation – it’s just stuff. As a matter of fact, if your student is moving to another state, you may want to consider having the particular store ship the items to the regional store and then you can pick up the items right in that town. That means less things to stuff into your car or a U-Haul. Speaking of which, I recently talked to a college sophomore who told me to tell my daughter – if you are not using something daily or at least weekly, do not bring it – it will just take up space.

The physical adjustments are certainly the easier ones to deal with. It is the emotional intangibles that give us more friction and indigestion challenges. Kahlil Gibran, in his poem, “On Children”, put it this way:

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

As much as I want to disagree with him – especially by him being a man, he certainly cannot relate to the life long invisible umbilical cord! As much as I want to disagree with him, I cannot. So, as any good mother would do, I choose to take the high road and make this transition fabulous. We have given her the best for the last 18 years – why stop now?

Yours Until Time Flies,

Coach Kim

Tags: college, college transition, graduation, letting go, young adult

Eat. Sleep. Repeat.

This was the response I got from my 13 year old when I asked her what her plans were for the summer. I think she gets her sense of humor from her father.

I thought about the opposing sentiments of those desires – on the one hand, the lazy (by nature) Flesh would be in La La Land just CHILLIN’ over the prospect of no stress, all rest.

The Spirit on the other hand – that ever evolving, I can do one more lap, take one more step, try one more time, Spirit – that is the entity that would have to be dealt with. If the Flesh had it his way, it would handcuff Mr. Goody Two Shoes and throw him in the back of a closet for a very long time.

But alas, that is not an option. These bi-polar sides of the same coin have no choice but to co-exist. So, on your personal battlefield, who will win today?

If you choose to not view these two forces as opponents but rather as two most resourceful functions of your consciousness, then (and only then) will you be able to harness ALL of your power and potential and purpose.

When the battle stops within, you will have fewer battles on the outside, because your internal harmony will short circuit any confusion that tries to head on your direction.

So, disregarding my newest teenager’s self-sabotaging statement (you know some teacher is going to want a 500 word paper on her summer break)…

The question dares to be asked of you – what are your plans for this summer?

Coach Kim

PS.  If you don’t already know that you are awesome and wonderful and powerful, check out The Validation Video, on this page, to the right – it will remind you that you have the ability to CHANGE LIVES, just sitting there, right in your mouth.

Tags: discipline, growth, healthy mind, Personal Development, potential, stress

5 Lessons Learned from my Exercise Routine

So I’m out doing my regular Saturday exercise, which consists of Speed Walking and Jogging – for those of you who are veterans, think “Airborne Shuffle”. I was having a great experience in my neighborhood and after ending up on the campus of Johns Hopkins University, everything turned into a “Forrest Gump blur”. I’m about to jog into a crowd of number wearing runners, so I decide to keep it simple and instead, dovetail to run with them, in their same direction. About a half mile later I realize I am running alongside the participants of the Baltimore 10 miler – no problem – I can stop anytime I want right?

Famous. Last. Words.

Here are the lessons I learned on this particular hot, muggy, Surprise Saturday …

1. Before getting committed, read the fine print – you might think there is no real price to pay, until 3 miles later when you find yourself in unfamiliar territory. Here is the revelation – assess, analyze, evaluate, and then decide. Are you willing to pay the price? If so, then dive in!

2. People will encourage you on, even if you tell them you don’t want to go – I told several people, “No, I’m just out for a casual Saturday morning exercise deal.” But they kept encouraging me to not quit and the volunteers pushed water in my face as I ran by them. Many onlookers also stood on the side lines and yelled words of great cheer and confidence. I couldn’t stop if I had wanted to (which I did by the way).

3. Even though you are not prepared, you can go farther than you think. At the last half mile, you would have thought I was Florence Griffith-Joyner, as I ran under the arches, hearing the announcer comment on the excitement and the thrill of victory. He said that there were 4,100 contestants, but by my count, there were 4,101.

4. When it’s all said and done, you still have to measure you stride. While everyone was getting caught up in crossing the finish line, in the back of my mind I had the unsettling reality of knowing that I was now in the middle of Druid Hill Park, another 4 miles away from my home. That meant that all the runners could untie their laces and celebrate, but I still had to push a little further.

5. And lastly, you have to represent – always. Of the 1,000 runners I personally saw, only about a dozen of them were Black. I notice we tend to sit these types of events out. What’s up with that? So of course, I had to push myself farther than I normally would have – we all do. For example,  if you are the only female, you sometimes bend over backwards to show that you are not a weak link.

Or maybe that’s just me.

All in all, I had a refreshing, fun, challenging Saturday morning. I heard them announce that the next annual 10 miler will be June 18, 2011. Maybe I’ll actually register for that one – after all, I already know the course ;-0

To Your Ability to be Versatile & Make the Best out of EVERY Situation,

Coach Kim

www.feel25again.com

Tags: adapt, attitude, exercise, lessons, marathon, running, versatility, walking

Validation

I read a some reflective literature today regarding choosing not to judge others. It is quite easy to focus on the shortcomings of those around us, quicker than it is to recognize their gifts and potential. I heard a speaker say one time – “Pretend everyone you meet today is wearing a t-shirt that says, MAKE ME FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF.” Why is that important? Because the way you treat people usually dictates how they treat you – there is a proportional relationship. And of course, there is always the indirect factor -

the boss chews out the employee,

who barks at his secretary,

who is short tempered with the cafeteria worker,

who gets in an argument with her husband,

who yells at the son,

who kicks the dog.

I have found, that generally speaking, trouble rolls downhill – fortunately you can choose to be the perpetrator, the victim, or the Change Agent. I encourage you to define your role and then to take it seriously. Once you determine the type of person you are (your role) when trouble comes your way, then you will automatically react according to YOUR STANDARDS and not blow in whatever direction is convenient at the time.

So…  encourage yourself – after all, you are wonderful, and bright, and creative, and full of potential – you can do WHATEVER you put your mind to – now go out and remind others of their greatness. Check out the Video to the right, called VALIDATION – it is dead on point.

Share with the other YBY blog readers, your thoughts…

Thanks for allowing me to pour into your spirit -

Choose to Be All You Can Be,

Coach Kim

Tags: confidence, encouragement, self esteem, validation